How To Find Your Recovery Mentor
The road that leads out of the Borderline Zone and into the Recovery Zone is a rocky one at best. One way to make your task easier is to win the support of someone you think you can trust. This person could be a Mentor to you. Your mentor should be someone committed to helping you make a real change in your behavior. In other words, a Mentor is willing to get to know you as you really are and to help you to get where you would like to go. This process can be a very cool journey.
Follow these seven steps to help find your Recovery Mentor today:
- A Mentor can be a family member, a friend, a co-worker, someone you met at a self-help group, someone from your church or temple, or even your spouse. The first step you need to take if you want to find someone to be your Mentor is to make a list of everyone you know.
- Once you have made your list. Go through it name by name and cross out those who you know you could never trust with your true emotions.
- Place a checkmark next to the names of the people who have a strong character and an attitude of determination and optimism.
- Place an X next to the names of those whom you admire in some way.
- Circle any name on your list that is not crossed out, and has a checkmark and an X next to it. Of these individuals, draw a star next to the ones who you believe are equipped to handle the intensity of your emotions; these are the people you can consider as a mentor.
- Ask each potential Mentor if they would be interested in being a part of your journey towards recovery. The act of asking for help will require a major emotional commitment on your part. You will have to be prepared to explain your problems (you can use these articles to help), share your emotions, describe your objectives, and warn your potential Mentor of how difficult it will be, at times, for him or her to handle your sentiments. You will also have to be prepared for rejection if the person declines to help. If you feel that you cannot handle this kind of rejection, then you should postpone finding your Mentor until you are ready.
- Once you are certain that you want to proceed, ask the people who are interested in assisting you to read this article, as well as some of the first few articles published. After your chosen Mentor has completed their assigned reading, engage each person in a discussion of his or her impressions of the articles. If the discussion goes well and you feel certain in your gut that they are the right person, ask why he or she would like to be your Mentor. If the answer seems sincere and straightforward, take a week to decide whether you want that person as your Mentor. Now is a perfect time to use your Relaxation, Objectifying, and Visualization skills to imagine whether this person will be helpful to your journey. If you can visualize a successful relationship, then ask that person to be your Mentor.
At BlueSky Behavioral Health we know many of these exercises can be difficult to embark upon alone. Take action today, and speak directly with an industry expert who is trained to help simplify and optimize your recovery journey.